“Prepare thy work without, and make it fit for thyself in the field; and afterwards build thine house.” Proverbs 24:27
Whether this is your first child, second, third or fifteenth, keep this baby registry in mind as you prepare for life with your little one! Because yes, we need the diapers, and the bottles and the bassinets and the car seats and the strollers and the this’s and the that’s…. but what about Mom and Dad?
If dishes are piling up so high it looks like Mount Everest is in your kitchen sink, chances you have a lot on your plate (ha, get it?). Stock up on disposable plates, bowls, cups and utensils if you think you may need a break from the kitchen and want to make dishes a little easier on yourself. Sacrificing a little extra kitchen cleanup gives more time for bonding, healing, napping, and anything else you want/need to do.
Your comfort is just as important as babies comfort. Allow yourself to heal, not suffer! After how hard you displayed your super woman powers, wear whatever you want!There’s so many options to choose from for postpartum dress. Since I’m breastfeeding, I rely on maternity spaghetti strap shirts and maternity bras because they have a snap strap for easy access. Don’t just get the maternity moo-moo dress because that’s what “they” say you’ll need. Pay attention to your body and what makes you, you! Comfort for you may be different for the next woman.
My aunt gave me great advice for life with a new baby: “Everyday, no matter what, eat and never skip a shower.” Sounds like a no brainer but when my little Asher came, my family had to force me to eat. Plus, I developed this crazy sweet tooth that makes me want cookies for breakfast, lunch and dinner (hence “makes” is present tense). Whether you have family and friends to keep your fridge stocked, or choose to order out every day, eat. But also make sure you put a couple pleasurable items on the menu; stock up on snacks you love, make a list of all your favorite take-out restaurants, or recipes, and cravings so you and your loved ones are prepared. Your baby will be eating, so should you!
Comfortable and Relaxing Atmosphere
‘Be careful, or your hearts will be weighed down with carousing, drunkenness and the anxieties of life, and that day will close on you suddenly like a trap.’ Luke 21:34
The King James Version says “Take heed of yourselves.”
Becoming a parent is not the easiest experience. As much as I’d like to say it’s been a walk in the park, I’ve had a couple days that felt like a swim in the middle of the ocean during a crashing hurricane. Sounds dramatic but sometimes we can get there if we as parents don’t care for our minds and fight for our peace. It’s not the baby’s fault – they just rely on us for everything and it gets less overwhelming when we are less overwhelmed. So don’t just whip out the white noise, diffusers, lavender oils and candles for the baby, you need relaxation too! New baby means a lot of learning and new sleeping or non-sleeping patterns. Creating a relaxing atmosphere helps make those 20 minute naps, at the very least, feel like Heaven (and you will need that).
Speaking of sleeping, keep a couple bed sheets and blankets in the closet. Not sure how often you change your bed sheets but if your baby is a co-sleeper or if you just have the baby on your bed for more than 5 minutes, your sheets will be blessed with one or all of the following: spit up, drool, pee and poop. It’s amazing, I love it. Waterproof mattress covers are the truth.
How’s the medicine cabinet? Are you the natural herbalist who cooks up your own turmeric and garlic DIY antibiotics or the parent who has a bottle of everything for everything and isn’t afraid to use it? Whoever you are, make sure you’re taken care of. If baby or husband get a little under the weather and you get caught in the storm, do you have everything you need to help nurse yourself back to health too? This includes any after birth care products you may need. Or will you or your husband be making inconvenient midnight trips to CVS?
I’m the “I want to do it myself so I don’t need any help even though I could really use the help” type of personality. However, motherhood has humbled me to realize just how special support systems can be – Family. Friends. Church groups. Etc. Doing life alone may protect you from having to deal with people, but also gives you comfort over maturity. We aren’t supposed to do life alone. Support offers love, advice, a listening ear and most importantly a helping hand! One of my goals this year is cultivate stronger relationships. This isn’t just for me, it’s also for my child and the training of his future character.
‘Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.’ Proverbs 22:6
Plan in advance as best as you can. Purchase tickets for future family travel so you’re forced to go, no excuses. If you like the movies, stock up on movie ticket vouchers and snacks so you don’t have to worry about your finances after baby is born. BE FLEXIBLE, but be attentive to your partners needs. You don’t need to go out for date night, just spend quality time together at home but spend it, don’t postpone it. And do what you guys enjoyed doing before baby came home. Know your marriage and do what you got to do. There’s no need to neglect your marriage just because your family is growing so don’t let baby subtract from your life! A baby is “your new addition.”
Relationship with Jesus
Nothing is possible without God and you’ll never receive true peace, joy, and confidence in yourself as a parent without Jesus. You WILL need Holy Spirit to guide you through and the Word of God reminding you of your identity, in case you feel like you’re losing it. Your identity is a child of God so you are a child of God raising a child of God. If you don’t get anything on this registry, this is your most important purchase and it’s already been purchased for you.
Anything you want
Because you deserve it! And if it makes you a joyful mama, then you’ll have a more joyful baby!
I’m sure there’s plenty more you can add to your mom and dad registry so think about it and make it personal. Don’t forget about you!